How do you conduct coaching sessions?
Coaching sessions are conducted by phone or through Zoom.
What is the cost of a session?
You can purchase 4 sessions for $200, or 8 sessions for $360.
What is your availability for coaching?
Do to volunteer work and family commitments, I am available on Tuesdays only.
What is the process to begin coaching?
Do you offer a sliding scale for women in financial difficulty?
I never want finances to keep a woman from getting support. Please set up a free consultation and we can discuss your needs.
What is the difference between therapy and coaching?
Both therapy and coaching can be very beneficial when facing betrayal trauma. Because of the high cost of therapy, some clients alternate with coaching to keep the overall cost down. With your permission, therapists and coaches can communicate and focus on different aspects of your recovery.
Therapy is where you process trauma and deal with symptoms of post traumatic stress, both from betrayal as well as any past trauma that is commonly stirred up when betrayed. Therapists focus on the past and present as a way to move forward. In therapy the client is considered the patient and the therapist the expert. Some therapists can also diagnose and treat mental illness.
Coaching starts with sharing your story, but then the focus shifts to the present and future. Coaching is a collaborative partnership focusing on specific goals determined by the client. In coaching the client is considered the expert on their life and the coach is a partner. Coaching is action oriented and focusses on where a client is today and how to best move forward by exploring mindsets, options, and obstacles. The client leaves each session with a few actions steps to help propel them toward their goals.
What does The International Coaching Federation (ICF) say about coaching vs. therapy?
"The ICF defines coaching as partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential. Coaching focuses on visioning, success, the present and moving toward the future. Therapy emphasizes psychopathology, emotions and the past to understand the present, and it works more with developing skills for managing emotions or past issues than does coaching."
What kind of topics do clients bring to a coaching session?
Clients bring a variety of topics to a session such as establishing boundaries, determining their values, healthy detachment, self-care plans, personal goals, safety plans, how to respond versus react to gaslighting, working toward a full therapeutic disclosure, and more. One of the benefits of coaching is the gift of processing your circumstances, thoughts, and emotions out loud with another person. This alone can bring clarity and focus to your situation and be a topic for a coaching session.
What happens during a typical coaching session?
We start by celebrating any successes and completed action steps since our last session. Then you set the agenda and I partner with you through active listening, questions, observation, and feedback to create awareness, explore options, anticipate obstacles, and design action steps for the best path forward. We end with your overall takeaways from our time together. For clients of faith, I'm always happy to begin with prayer and invite God's presence into our session.
How do I find a therapist trained in Betrayal Trauma?
The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialist (APSATS) is an organization that trains coaches and therapists from a trauma informed perspective. Visit the APSATS website to find a therapist in your area. Another resource is a podcast called Helping Couples Heal. Two of their podcasts helpful in choosing a therapist are Finding Professional Support and Pathologizing the Partner vs Partner Trauma Model. (Apple Podcasts)
What are a few resources you've found helpful?
Books:
Coaching sessions are conducted by phone or through Zoom.
What is the cost of a session?
You can purchase 4 sessions for $200, or 8 sessions for $360.
What is your availability for coaching?
Do to volunteer work and family commitments, I am available on Tuesdays only.
What is the process to begin coaching?
- Set up a free 30 minute consultation to determine if coaching is a good fit.
- Choose a coaching package and fill out the online coaching intake forms.
- Pay for your coaching package and set up your first session.
Do you offer a sliding scale for women in financial difficulty?
I never want finances to keep a woman from getting support. Please set up a free consultation and we can discuss your needs.
What is the difference between therapy and coaching?
Both therapy and coaching can be very beneficial when facing betrayal trauma. Because of the high cost of therapy, some clients alternate with coaching to keep the overall cost down. With your permission, therapists and coaches can communicate and focus on different aspects of your recovery.
Therapy is where you process trauma and deal with symptoms of post traumatic stress, both from betrayal as well as any past trauma that is commonly stirred up when betrayed. Therapists focus on the past and present as a way to move forward. In therapy the client is considered the patient and the therapist the expert. Some therapists can also diagnose and treat mental illness.
Coaching starts with sharing your story, but then the focus shifts to the present and future. Coaching is a collaborative partnership focusing on specific goals determined by the client. In coaching the client is considered the expert on their life and the coach is a partner. Coaching is action oriented and focusses on where a client is today and how to best move forward by exploring mindsets, options, and obstacles. The client leaves each session with a few actions steps to help propel them toward their goals.
What does The International Coaching Federation (ICF) say about coaching vs. therapy?
"The ICF defines coaching as partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential. Coaching focuses on visioning, success, the present and moving toward the future. Therapy emphasizes psychopathology, emotions and the past to understand the present, and it works more with developing skills for managing emotions or past issues than does coaching."
What kind of topics do clients bring to a coaching session?
Clients bring a variety of topics to a session such as establishing boundaries, determining their values, healthy detachment, self-care plans, personal goals, safety plans, how to respond versus react to gaslighting, working toward a full therapeutic disclosure, and more. One of the benefits of coaching is the gift of processing your circumstances, thoughts, and emotions out loud with another person. This alone can bring clarity and focus to your situation and be a topic for a coaching session.
What happens during a typical coaching session?
We start by celebrating any successes and completed action steps since our last session. Then you set the agenda and I partner with you through active listening, questions, observation, and feedback to create awareness, explore options, anticipate obstacles, and design action steps for the best path forward. We end with your overall takeaways from our time together. For clients of faith, I'm always happy to begin with prayer and invite God's presence into our session.
How do I find a therapist trained in Betrayal Trauma?
The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialist (APSATS) is an organization that trains coaches and therapists from a trauma informed perspective. Visit the APSATS website to find a therapist in your area. Another resource is a podcast called Helping Couples Heal. Two of their podcasts helpful in choosing a therapist are Finding Professional Support and Pathologizing the Partner vs Partner Trauma Model. (Apple Podcasts)
What are a few resources you've found helpful?
Books:
- Intimate Deception by Dr. Sheri Keffer
- The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick, she also has a YouTube channel
- Good Boundaries and Goodbyes by Lysa Terkeurst
- Moving Beyond Betrayal, The 5-Step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addicts by Vicki Tidwell Palmer
- When Loving Him is Hurting You by Dr. David Hawkins
- Change My Relationship, 365 Daily Devos for Christians in Difficult Relationships by Karla Downing
- The Great Sex Rescue by Shelia Wray Gergoire
- Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
- Helping Couples Heal with Duane Osterlind & Marnie Breecker
- Relationship Truth Unfiltered with Leslie Vernick
- Hope for Wives Podcast
- APSATS, Betrayal Recovery Radio
- Flying Free with Natalie Hoffman
- Husband Material with Drew Boa
- Therapy and Theology with Lysa Terkeurst
- The Living Truth Podcast
- Pure Sex Radio with Jonathan Daughtery
- Pure Desire Ministries