Betrayal occurs when a spouse or intimate partner violates trust and is unfaithful. It can take on many forms- pornography, emotional affairs, sexual affairs, etc. The experience is intimately personal, deeply shattering, and emotionally overwhelming.  

The person that should be looked to for safety and emotional support is now the cause of unspeakable pain and heartache. The deception, manipulation, and confusion can be as damaging as the acting out behavior itself. 

Betrayal affects us in every area of our life, with over 70% experiencing symptoms of post traumatic stress that accompany the emotional and physical shock.  A few symptoms include:

• Anxiety
• Feeling overwhelmed
• Difficulty concentrating, "brain fog"
• Deep sense of loss and grief
• Shame and guilt
• Somatic symptoms (headaches, tremors, etc.)

• Hypervigilance
• Withdrawal and isolation
• Feeling fearful and unsafe
• Difficulty regulating intense emotions
• Sleep and appetite disturbances
• Intrusive and ruminating thoughts

 This creates a fog of confusion, self-doubt, and a feeling of going crazy.

​Along with the post traumatic stress symptoms mentioned above, betrayal often stirs up past traumatic experiences as well. These are just a few of the many reasons why it's important to process trauma with a betrayal trauma informed therapist. Therapists and coaches can work together to provide the support you need, working on different aspects of your recovery. See my F.A.Q. page for more information on finding a therapist, and the difference between coaching and therapy.

Moving Forward is Possible​

The beginning of your journey starts with sharing your story. Taking that first step can often be the most difficult and scary step of all. I understand. I’ve been there too. My desire is to be an extended hand of hope and courage. Partnering with another woman who's walked the path before you is a powerful example of how courage can be contagious. You need a safe space to share your story. No judgement here. Your feelings will be heard, understood, and validated.

You were meant to be clothed in strength and dignity​

With God's help you can take your God given dignity back and walk in His strength. You can find your voice and be empowered to once again experience hope, healing, and joy. Moving from victim to victor is a process that is not linear but often quite messy with many detours, U-turns, and road blocks. It’s hard work and not for the faint of heart, but there’s good news on the other side of your journey. With God's help you can move from PTS to PTG, Post Traumatic Growth.